tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post2202268073831202221..comments2023-11-05T03:48:19.156-06:00Comments on finding pam: My sister, CandyFinding Pamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07671978828279304904noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-56497263516101303142012-06-17T08:18:13.381-05:002012-06-17T08:18:13.381-05:00I'm so sorry Pam...that you have to go through...I'm so sorry Pam...that you have to go through this with your sister. Mental illness is an illness....something that isn't the person's fault. I think that's the hardest thing to accept when it seems like they could do something to help themself. It's one of the hardest diseases on the family....Stay strong okay.....Nikki (Sarah)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13731200601840020130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-20987477162747744812012-06-14T23:35:07.821-05:002012-06-14T23:35:07.821-05:00It's hard to admit but there comes a time when...It's hard to admit but there comes a time when you've done all you can do. I got that way with my own mother who had many of the same problems as your sister along with substance abuse issues as well. I had my own sanity and home to protect. It's difficult. And yes, as you probably know from reading my blog, I have some regrets. I've come to realize though at some point self preservation kicks in whether we want it to or not. It's an automatic defense mechanism.<br /><br />God bless and guide you Pam as you deal with these difficult issues.Debrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16140046660664590895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-1578956155603978872012-06-10T23:40:37.669-05:002012-06-10T23:40:37.669-05:00Pam, I haven't been visiting blogs lately so w...Pam, I haven't been visiting blogs lately so was sorry to notice your post about your Sister. Just continue loving and praying for her, that's all you can do at this point. I have been there and done that with my dad. Finally our prayers were answered and he was forced to get better through having a stroke. Sounds strange to say that but we had 5 wonderful years with him before he died.DeEttahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18426099684156458280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-3965380645133497172012-06-08T17:46:51.136-05:002012-06-08T17:46:51.136-05:00Pam I am sorry for your continued struggle with yo...Pam I am sorry for your continued struggle with your sister.<br /><br />Thank you for your kind words of recent about my bird.<br /><br />Blessings.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-47853030379862160302012-06-02T21:48:51.696-05:002012-06-02T21:48:51.696-05:00Nick, my thoughts exactly. It is obvious that she...Nick, my thoughts exactly. It is obvious that she does not want to live or else she would take care of herself. I talked with her tonight. She had a BK double stacker. She can't keep eating like this. <br /><br />Nice to hear from you S.S.N.Finding Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07671978828279304904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-23462149525619960622012-06-02T21:17:30.910-05:002012-06-02T21:17:30.910-05:00I wonder what payoff Candy gets for her behaviors....I wonder what payoff Candy gets for her behaviors.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16939152657551690867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-70834546052329840812012-06-02T09:25:30.570-05:002012-06-02T09:25:30.570-05:00Sandee, I feel caught, but I know I will always tr...Sandee, I feel caught, but I know I will always try to help her. Big hugs back to you.<br /><br /><br /><br />Akelamalu, I just needed to vent. Thank you for listening.<br /><br /><br />Rudee, definately a hard spot to be. I don't understand her decisions, but then, I am not bi-polar. Rudee, I've been in couseling for two years. The main topic is my sister. I don't know how to let her be, though, I'm still working on it.Finding Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07671978828279304904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-53567395240999676692012-06-02T09:07:01.707-05:002012-06-02T09:07:01.707-05:00As already stated above me, you can't help her...As already stated above me, you can't help her if she doesn't want to help herself. If she smokes, she smokes. If she doesn't follow instructions, well, she's free to make her own decisions, even if they're bad ones.<br /><br />It can't be an easy spot to be in, but there you are anyways. You may find counseling for yourself in respect to your sister to be of benefit.<br /><br />Hugs.Rudeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17889298704039071473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-12030073686628037122012-06-01T10:22:18.089-05:002012-06-01T10:22:18.089-05:00It's virtually impossible to help someone who ...It's virtually impossible to help someone who doesn't want to help themself. I feel for you. xxAkelamaluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234268568845148285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-76537684074451193122012-06-01T10:19:17.569-05:002012-06-01T10:19:17.569-05:00You can't help those that won't help thems...You can't help those that won't help themselves. It's sad, but it's so very true. I know you'll continue to help her.<br /><br />Have a blessed day and weekend. Big hugs. :)Sandeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785788498697004273noreply@blogger.com