tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post724873937076974611..comments2023-11-05T03:48:19.156-06:00Comments on finding pam: My sisterFinding Pamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07671978828279304904noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-63543218546154642462011-05-06T23:34:09.864-05:002011-05-06T23:34:09.864-05:00Hoarding is a very complex problem. To take her &q...Hoarding is a very complex problem. To take her "things" away suddenly, even if she agreed, could lead to an even deeper depression with possible suicidal ideation. If she would agree to see a good psych doctor or counselor perhaps that could be a start.<br /><br />Sending love, hugs and prayers.Debrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16140046660664590895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-31522288299760549682011-05-04T09:54:52.875-05:002011-05-04T09:54:52.875-05:00Looks like you've received some great advice h...Looks like you've received some great advice here Pam. Love and Prayers to you and your sister...Dawn Droverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07411044010089842985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-39534574352313157942011-05-04T09:16:33.265-05:002011-05-04T09:16:33.265-05:00Amy, you are right in that if I don't do anyth...Amy, you are right in that if I don't do anything I would never forgive myself. Thank you for the prayers and thoughts.Finding Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07671978828279304904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-76613098275175438682011-05-03T22:57:34.981-05:002011-05-03T22:57:34.981-05:00Try to help if you can. If something happens you w...Try to help if you can. If something happens you will not forgive yourself if you didn't try. But who knows if you can? I will be thinking of you two!Unspokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16065870952905767595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-54287782374241265152011-05-03T18:59:05.473-05:002011-05-03T18:59:05.473-05:00Xmichra, I think you really understand me so well....Xmichra, I think you really understand me so well. I appreciate you thoughts and your concern for my own well being.<br /><br />I did research some information for her and gave her the numbers to call. She did make a new appointment with a different therapist and I take that as a step forward to her wanting to get well.<br /><br /><br />Candy is suppose to come over to Texas tomorrow. We will see.<br /><br />Hugs to you as well my smart little friend. <br /><br /><br /><br />Chickie, Candy can indeed be quite lively. I need your address for a gift for your sweet little baby. I forgot the due date.Finding Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07671978828279304904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-68069960448705862372011-05-03T17:26:52.077-05:002011-05-03T17:26:52.077-05:00I'm sorry that Candy is going through this as ...I'm sorry that Candy is going through this as well as you. I hope she's able to get the help she needs. I know she can be such a lively person!Chickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15953892579800213358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-92032981409914275462011-05-03T13:39:29.745-05:002011-05-03T13:39:29.745-05:00I think what you are doing, is about all you can d...I think what you are doing, is about all you can do. Love her, and provide support to her in a way that allows her to pick herslf up and not put you down. The onus is not on you to correct this, and I know somewhere in your mind you feel compelled to just "fix it". But you know in your heart that people, all people, need to want the change that can help them heal. <br /><br />I know that you won't give up on your sister, you aren't that kind of person. But don't beat yourself up if she doesn't take the initiative after you have tried to help her either. i know so many who do this, and it consumes them. <br /><br />You have worked for the last year (or so) on yourself, your mental and physical health, and the well being of your family is important and apparent. make sure that though you are willing and able to help out, that you are not putting yourself out. ((hugs)) I only say this because I worry about you going in to deep... you are sometimes to generous with your self-sacrifice.Xmichrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08640935280209026338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-87913798532615301672011-05-02T05:44:36.058-05:002011-05-02T05:44:36.058-05:00Dearest Pam, I am so very sorry for the suffering ...Dearest Pam, I am so very sorry for the suffering of your dear sister and how you too are suffering. IN prayer with others here for a resolution.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-47680568469519736192011-05-01T10:59:20.486-05:002011-05-01T10:59:20.486-05:00Akelamula, Many thanks for the Reiki and prayers. ...Akelamula, Many thanks for the Reiki and prayers. Candy has a long history of problems. The problem is she knows as much as the professionals. <br /><br />We may have to go out of town to find her help.Finding Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07671978828279304904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-1186125662366131712011-05-01T10:15:44.293-05:002011-05-01T10:15:44.293-05:00How worrying for you all. I too think your sister ...How worrying for you all. I too think your sister needs professional help. I will keep Candy in my prayers and send Reiki.Akelamaluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234268568845148285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-62999852782869324622011-05-01T09:44:57.124-05:002011-05-01T09:44:57.124-05:00Gail, thanks for the information. I talked with Ca...Gail, thanks for the information. I talked with Candy last night about her living situation. I ask her what could I do to help her? She was reluctant to ask for help since the last time I helped her.<br /><br />She knows her life is intolerable right now. She is getting back into therapy. I will check out NAMI and do all that I can for her.<br /><br />Love you too.<br /><br /><br />Sarah, part of the problem is that my sister worked in the mental health field for years. It is hard for her to get help when she knows all of the professionals.<br /><br />I appreciate your prayers for us both.Finding Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07671978828279304904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-60726586696394991382011-05-01T04:48:33.322-05:002011-05-01T04:48:33.322-05:00Hi Pam...it's hard to watch someone you love i...Hi Pam...it's hard to watch someone you love in terrible pain. I think maybe Gail is right...your sister can't reach out to get the help she needs so getting the help to reach out to her may be good. Praying for Candy and for you to know how to help her.Nikki (Sarah)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13731200601840020130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-79722071426811354692011-04-30T20:36:15.648-05:002011-04-30T20:36:15.648-05:00PAM0 then cll Mental Health Services and NAMI, l...PAM0 then cll Mental Health Services and NAMI, look up NAMI, it is a national org. for mental health issues, and most of their services are free. NAMI ,k?<br /><br />love uGailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11337675996256691215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-88282727445021288452011-04-30T18:49:04.766-05:002011-04-30T18:49:04.766-05:00I agree with Gail, too. This is a difficult proble...I agree with Gail, too. This is a difficult problem even for professionals. It is probably appropriate to involve the Adult Protection Agency, as she is not making safe decisions for herself.<br />How terrible for you, Pam. I share in the general heartache for you. :-(Ferdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13133599848717783477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-34423161758004306912011-04-30T13:56:10.612-05:002011-04-30T13:56:10.612-05:00Gail, I looked up the VNA and the closest one is i...Gail, I looked up the VNA and the closest one is in New Orleans, and they only service the surrounding area. I am still researching it tho.<br /><br />Is the VNA part of the United Way?<br /><br /><br /><br />Joyce, many, many prayers are needed. I have always been the grown up. I will not give up on her. She was getting some counseling, but stopped for reasons unknown. She doesn't have a church family either. <br /><br />Sandee, she has to agree to wanting help. I think she thinks she doesn't have a problem. It really scares me to think of her living like that.<br /><br />Thank you all for your comments. I will keep you posted.Finding Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07671978828279304904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-75440089904545433452011-04-30T12:11:35.216-05:002011-04-30T12:11:35.216-05:00I agree with Gail. She needs professional help. ...I agree with Gail. She needs professional help. Don't give up on her. You would feel guilty for the rest of your life. <br /><br />Her home sounds like a real health hazard. That is not good for her or her cat.<br /><br />They are both in my prayers honey. Hugs. :)Sandeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785788498697004273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-81213723166544335852011-04-30T12:02:45.597-05:002011-04-30T12:02:45.597-05:00Yes, Candy is in my prayers and I will put her on ...Yes, Candy is in my prayers and I will put her on our prayer list at Church tomorrow.<br /><br />I am an only child, not even a cousin, so what I am saying may not be intelligent but it's from my heart.<br /><br />Don't give up on her, please. You are her sister, and maybe you are the only one who can reach her. Maybe it's time to become her "parent". <br /><br />Do you think she would be willing to see a professional? Or maybe her Pastor? Is there something that she likes doing outside of her home?<br /><br />I think I would drag her out of that house and make her breathe in some fresh air. Get some sunshine...open the windows and let the fresh air in the house.<br /><br />HugsThe Bear's Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15386513066166280641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8429266377364863842.post-7943850518291896932011-04-30T11:37:06.007-05:002011-04-30T11:37:06.007-05:00DEAR PAM-
I am heart-sick for your sister and for ...DEAR PAM-<br />I am heart-sick for your sister and for you. Her situation is extreme and your concerns are SO valid. I am going to suggest the following. I believe it is time to call in professionals. You need to call the Visiting Nurse Association (VNA)closest to where Candy lives and say you are requesting an "evaluation for services", tell them how you found her and "fear for her life". They are obligated to go in to the home and evaluate for safety, etc. This is way beyond you Pam, I am so sorry to say. <br />She needs help, NOW!<br />Love and prayers to you and for CAndy<br />Gail<br />peace......Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11337675996256691215noreply@blogger.com